I can’t even start to inform you what number of instances I hear, “Oh nicely, since they’re twins, you solely should do issues as soon as for 2 children, proper?” Or, “Effectively, I’m positive you might have them in the identical sports activities/extracurricular actions, in order that ought to be simpler proper?”
WRONG. Not less than in my family, my twin daughters are people, and we’ve got tried to deal with them as people from day one. And whereas sure, as infants, we had them on the identical schedule, we made positive they napped and ate on the similar time, we fed them the identical meals; nonetheless, they’re nonetheless two people. Having twins meant double of the whole lot. Two swings, two boppys, two excessive chairs, two automobile seats, and nicely, numerous instances, two of the whole lot changed into 4 of the whole lot. So sure, I assumed we might have the ability to get away with many two-for-ones, however boy was I fallacious!
The actual fact is that twins will be 100% totally different from one another. I do know, exhausting to imagine, proper? 😉 However, at the least in our household, our 10-year-old fraternal women are like night time and day.
The Similarities and Variations of Twins
Our Twin Daughters are Very Totally different
They’re bodily totally different.
And for our household, I imply actually totally different. One is blonde; the opposite is brunette. One is sort of three inches taller and has all the time been longer since beginning. One has blue eyes, and the opposite has inexperienced eyes. One appears to be going by way of puberty first, whereas the opposite doesn’t appear phased. One could be very versatile (is a gymnast), and the opposite is just not. One is a singer and a dancer, and the opposite would by no means sing even when you paid her.
They’re emotionally totally different.
Whereas our twin daughters are being raised by the identical mother and father, they’re each emotionally totally different in the identical family on the similar time. One could be very empathetic and is all the time anxious about what individuals suppose. The opposite has no clue and lives her finest life. One continually analyzes the state of affairs, and the opposite can simply float. One is all the time attempting to make individuals chuckle, and the opposite needs to ensure she is included and contains everybody.
They like various things.
It’s true. I imply, as toddlers, for probably the most half, my twin daughters all the time wished what one another had. However as soon as they grew older, they’ve developed their very own likes and dislikes. I like this as a result of it tells me they’re turning into their very own individual and creating their very own sense of self.
For instance, one likes to eat and will eat all day if I let her. The opposite eats if she’s hungry. One loves carrots; the opposite loves cucumbers. One is into boys; the opposite couldn’t care much less. One likes to sleep in, and the opposite is up earlier than us on the weekends. One loves chocolate . . . wait, okay, they each love chocolate.
They don’t all the time costume the identical.
Though there are some days after they love to decorate the identical, most days, my women come downstairs in solely totally different outfits. I used to decorate them alike, however finally, they realized their very own likes and dislikes. Nevertheless, there are such a lot of moments after they find yourself carrying the identical factor with out even planning to!
They’re not in the identical extracurricular actions.
I do know exhausting to imagine, however it’s true. After all, after they had been little, we had them check out all of the issues collectively. However over time, we slowly seen their strengths and made positive we listened to their wants and needs when it got here to this. Sure, my life can be SO a lot simpler in the event that they had been in the identical sports activities and actions. Nevertheless, it might be very unfair to group them into one. For now, they’re each in dance. One is in gymnastics, and the opposite is in aggressive dance and coding. One sings, they usually each do piano. And sure, it’s exhausting as a result of there isn’t a older sibling right here, so each of their actions take the identical precedence on a regular basis.
They’ve the identical pals.
We have now all the time stored our twin daughters in the identical class. Honestly, we did this initially as a result of it was simpler to cope with one classroom fairly than two. However as they acquired older, we made positive to ask them what they wished for themselves, and nicely, they’ve by no means wished to separate. Truthfully, most individuals assume this may not be a sensible choice. Nevertheless, every set of twins has a unique dynamic. This works for them and us. And whereas they’ve the identical group of pals, additionally they have pals within the group to whom every is nearer. They’ve realized one another’s strengths in class and have helped one another lots when third and 4th-grade math has develop into too exhausting for mother (sigh).
They’re finest pals.
However in all honesty, they’re. Our twin daughters will be wherever and have a very good time. They’ve been this fashion since they realized the right way to play. This 12 months was the primary 12 months they haven’t shared a bed room, and boy, had been they unhappy. Whereas it appears to be going nice, they chat each night time, learn collectively in one another’s room and discover methods to be collectively till the minute they go to mattress. And like all siblings, they’ve arguments, however they’re uncommon and minimal in all honesty.
However They’re Additionally So Related!
Twins are all so totally different! However they will also be very related. Listed below are some quirky and enjoyable info about how my twin daughters are totally different and the identical:
- They nonetheless wish to match.
- They bathe collectively (and may kill me for sharing this).
- My women stick up for one another if both their dad or I are upset with them.
- We take them on date nights, mother and twin, after which mother and different twin.
- They shared a room till they had been ten.
- They’ve been in the identical class since preschool.
- They had been born vaginally, half-hour aside.
- Normally, when one will get one thing or does one thing, the opposite has to as nicely.
- They don’t compete in class. As an alternative, they assist one another.
- They do argue about who has extra ice cream of their bowl.
- One began speaking lots whereas it took the opposite a while to catch up.
- The one who talked early on continues to be probably the most vocal of the 2.
- One wants numerous dental work and the opposite doesn’t want a lot.
- One goes by way of puberty and the opposite hasn’t began.
- They’re each the most effective massive sisters to their little one-year-old sister.
Each set of twins/multiples is totally different. However what I’ve realized is that irrespective of how a lot you attempt to increase them the identical, with the identical morals, guidelines, and values, they may all the time develop up with their very own model of what their childhood regarded like. They are going to all the time develop as much as be people, to be their very own individual. However isn’t that the objective? Isn’t that the most effective factor a mother may ask for? I maintain my breath and hope that they may all the time proceed to be the most effective pals they’re in the present day.
