Mom shaming It has Stop. Flat out. It’s exhausting. The worst thing about it is where it comes from. Other moms. Rebel Wilson, an actress, recently welcomed her surrogate daughter and announced it. She displayed a heartfelt Instagram post mentioning, “I am learning quickly… much respect to all the Mums out there! Proud that I am a member of your club. 💗💗💗”
Yet, within a matter of a week, many moms seem to have disowned Rebel from this very club. Fans have switched from gushing over Rebel’s heartwarming news and expressing happiness for her to being full-fledged mom-shamers after she posted a photo and video of her dancing at Paris Hilton’s launch Party.
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It was very disheartening to see how many people backlashed Rebel.
“She may regret writing this post in a few months/weeks. She can do whatever she wants, as can any mum, but it does seem a little odd that a week after a baby that she longed for so long arrives she’s out partying. Even if she only went for an hour, it seemed a little strange.“
“I wonder if the surrogate is out partying yet? I’m sure she is at home healing and waiting for milk to stop coming through.“
“Wow I was a fan but… EVERY new mother with a newborn would not ever ever go out 1 week after giving birth.”
“It’s so sad that you have already abandoned your baby. What was the point in having a child? If the nanny is only going to care for it.“
Wow. It’s mom shame at its finest. We can’t make this up😪.
Being a new mom is hard as is—yet there seems to be no way to please the masses when it comes to the decisions mothers make for themselves and their families.
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Mothers share their feelings of being overwhelmed by motherhood every day. Or that they’re struggling with identity loss. Many mothers ask for more support. Mothers may also need a break from their busy schedules to take care of themselves so they can be there for their children. Best They are a role model for their children. Yet, when one mom—like Rebel Wilson—has the ability to go out and enjoy herself, we criticize her for not being glued to her newborn 24/7?!
I can still remember the pain of the newborn stage. It was like being in a fog that would never lift. I You wish I was able to go outside and spend some time by myself. Not because I didn’t love my baby, but because perhaps it would have helped me not lose myself in the midst of motherhood. Furthermore, my husband left the house left and right after our child was born—and no one dared to question him why he wasn’t with his kid.
So why do we question moms? And, honestly, who are they? We To judge?
It’s exhaustingThis endless cycle of mom shaming, criticizing, and judging mothers that mothers must endure every day is called the “mom shaming” cycle.
Rebel Wilson isn’t amongst the first of celebrities to experience the dark, looming cloud of mom shaming.
Olivia Wilde recently spoke out about it, sharing, “When people see me not with my kids, it’s always ‘How dare she?’”
“I do wish, for the betterment of society in general, that we would all disengage from a cycle of bullying and hatred. We’ve just lost empathy, and we just don’t give people the benefit of the doubt—specifically women. We just assume the worst from women, and I don’t know why.”
Megan Fox recently reacted to a mom shammer asking her where her kids were when she posted an Instagram photo. “Wait wait wait, I … have kids?!? Oh my God, I knew I had to have something!!”
Mom shame on celebrities is an example of how everyone can be mom shamed, but I believe it continues to reinforce the fact that moms matter. just can’t catch a break.
Mothers are often burdened with the responsibility of motherhood, and they should seek help. Mothers seek help, but are told they must learn how to do it themselves. The moms then try to do it by themselves. Break—and all of a sudden it’s completely their fault.
It’s exhaustingMothers must endure the endless cycle, day in and day out, of mom shame and criticism and judging.
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And on another note—the things that other moms do, like Rebel Wilson, is simply just none Learn more about our business. If the child isn’t being endangered and there is no question about safety, then why should we be involved in the decisions made by other mamas for their children and their families?
What works for one may not work for another—but when will we learn that’s perfectly OK? With all the challenges that accompany becoming a new mom, I think the most we should do is just support each other—differences and all. We should not shame moms. Not Don’t jump to conclusions as to why a mother made that decision.
Rebel was attacked by so many people, but some commenters came to her defense.
“Seriously, people need to slow down! Just because she goes out one night without her baby doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to be a mom. I’m sure the baby is home with someone she trusts. Mothers can have fun and not feel guilty. Part of the mother’s life is being seen. Move on, get over yourself.“
“Many women go out without their babies early in life. There are many women who do. Why should people make so much of it? Life doesn’t end when you have children. You don’t know all the ins and outs of their lives so maybe just move on with your own instead of judging theirs.“
And we couldn’t agree more👏.