Begining a family with your partner is a happy occasion that brings people closer together.
But this is not always true. After her husband began to question her fidelity after she gave birth to their three children, one woman voiced her concerns.
She shared her situation in a Reddit post that has since been deleted. subreddit r/relationship_advice.
The woman claimed that her husband demanded a DNA test when she gave birth.
The couple has three children at the moment and he has requested a paternity exam each time.
“This upsets me every time he does this,” she wrote in her post. “After I give birth, he requests a paternity test to ensure that the babies are his, of course, all the tests come out to him being the father.”
The woman said that her husband was the only man she had ever been with, and that they’ve been married for over 11 years.
She said that she and her husband are done having children and that she had given birth to their final child last month.
Her husband claims that he wants paternity tests done on their children as a “precaution.”
“He knows I would never cheat on him, he says he does this as a precaution and that every man should do this,” she wrote.
The woman’s husband tells her that he “wouldn’t be able to sleep at night” had he not had physical proof their children were biologically his.
The woman believes that her husband’s insistence on DNA testing their children is rooted in the trauma one of his friends experienced raising a child that wasn’t biologically his.
“His biggest fear is raising someone else’s kid, this fear comes from a personal experience that happened to a very close family friend of his,” she shared.
“His family friend raised a child for his whole life not knowing he wasn’t the father until that child took an ancestry test when he was in his 20s.”
She has tried to sympathize with her husband, but it isn’t working.
“I understand his concerns although this is just insulting and embarrassing every time he does this and it hurts my feelings,” she wrote.
“I know I should just let this go but it does bother me.”
Other Redditors pointed out a problem with the woman’s husband’s behavior.
“His greatest fear is raising another man’s child. Perhaps his fear should be another man raising his child because he sounds unbearable,” one user commented.
“Why do you keep having children with a man that obviously doesn’t trust you? I feel like he is probably projecting his own infidelity,” another user pointed out.
“‘He knows I would never cheat on him’… apparently not because that’s the only reason he would need a paternity test,” another user added.
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In a follow-up post that was also deleted, the woman revealed that she had undergone “a change of perspective” toward her husband’s feelings.
“If I was a man, I would also make sure the child is mine. I don’t want to raise any children that aren’t biologically mine either,” she wrote.
“My husband and I are faithful to each other. We know each other at the end of the day, we have been married for 11 years.”
Megan Quinn is a writer with YourTango. She covers entertainment and news as well as self, love and relationships.