Losing your identity is easy to do when you’re inundated with motherhood duties every day. There is a plethora of information online about how not to lose yourself but it’s often easier to read about than to do.
Some moms need a little help and encouragement to reconnect with themselves. Mother’s Day is a perfect time to extend that encouragement and remind the mamas in your life that they have identities beyond parenting.
Here are some gift ideas to encourage a mother you know to spend time with herself. The items on this list may help her to remember who she really is, what she likes, what feels right to her and how to care for herself.
Soul Study Self Love Journal
Most moms are busy and their time is precious. You can use a journal to help her connect with herself. Consider giving her the Soul Study Self Love Journal. It contains daily prompts—115 to be exact. The prompts are “Therapy Journaling Technique questions for healing, self love & reflection,” according to their website. This gift is a wonderful tool for any mom who wishes to know more about herself.
Enjoy a hobby?
Hobbies are not for everyone, and it is even harder to find time when you have kids. Hobbies can help us relax, stay focused, access our creativity or just spend some time alone. If you know what a mom in your life’s favorite pastime is, look for classes and consider paying for one or a few. If she loves to paint, enroll her in painting classes. If it’s gardening, help her buy her tools.
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Encourage her to find time to do something she loves and to make it easier to get her to do it.
Vie Beauty Rose Water
Let’s be honest, keeping up with a skin care routine can be tough for any working adult. The extra effort can be well worth it since the condition of our skin can impact our self-esteem. Consider buying Vie Beauty Rose Water to help moms feel better and get back in touch with themselves. It’s an easy and quick way to keep your skin hydrated throughout the day. Buying a single skincare product for a mom who doesn’t have a skincare routine can help her ease back into caring for her skin. The single product may seem less intimidating than five. This product is also cute for a mom with a young daughter as they have a Mommy & Me Set.
Virtual Pleasure Mapping session
You may put your pleasure on the back burner when you are busy with children. However, life isn’t just about working and motherhood–you deserve to enjoy pleasure too. You can enjoy sensual touch, or slow down and enjoy the food.
Give your mom a gift of a session of pleasure mapping. It’s a way to explore the erotic zones in your body without sex or orgasm being the end goal.
Andrea Richardson is the owner and founder at Womb Care Womxn. She offers virtual sessions lasting an hour.
A Headspace Subscription
Buy this gift only if your mom friend or lover is likely to use it. Headspace is a free app that offers hundreds guided meditations to help moms become more present. The Headspace app offers hundreds of guided meditations that can help moms practice being present. Headspace offers a $69.99 yearly subscription. If you’d prefer a three-month gift card, it costs $38.99.
Pay for a Staycation
Peace and quiet becomes a luxury when you have kids, and it’s hard to imagine there are moms who wouldn’t appreciate some. The ultimate gift to a tired mother could be a staycation. Consider a hotel that has a spa, so she can relax in luxury. Of course, think about who is going to watch the kids while she’s away, be it you, a partner or someone else she trusts.
Therapy Sessions
It can be difficult to raise emotionally healthy children and remain emotionally healthy yourself. So many moms need help with the process and could benefit from a therapist to assist them in reconnecting with themselves and heal any baggage they’re carrying around.
You can save time by creating a list of therapists to help them. The Therapy for Black Girls website is an excellent resource. If you think they’d appreciate it, you could pay for a few therapy sessions upfront for them to help them kickstart the process.